Posted by: Apostolic Oneness Pentecostals | April 22, 2010

Overcoming Bitterness

Bitterness is to the soul as cancer is to the body. If you knew that you had a form of cancer that could be removed by surgery, you would say to the doctor, “Go for it! Get it all!” Bitterness, like cancer, attacks every part of our being. Forgiving from your heart those who have hurt you is God’s way of removing the cancer.

Tragically, this cancer of the soul is a communicable disease that can be spread to others. That is why the Word of God says, “See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many” (Hebrews 12:15, NIV) Entire families and churches can be defiled by roots of bitterness.

Remember, you are doing this for your sake. God wants you to be free. Don’t rationalize or explain the offenders behavior. Forgiveness is dealing with your pain and leaving the other person to God. Positive feelings will follow in time; freeing yourself from the past is the critical issue right now. Dont say things like, “Lord, please help me to forgive,” because He is already helping you. Dont say, “Lord, I want to forgive,” because you are bypassing the hard-core choice to forgive, which is your responsibility.

Did you know that most people realize they need to forgive and that failing to do so will rob them of the freedom they desire? When you pray, you must pray “Lord, I choose to forgive ______ (name of person or even church) for ______ (list what they did or failed to do), which made me feel ______ (tell God about the painful memory). After praying, you will immediately sense the power of the Holy Ghost overshadow you in order to start the healing process. I guarantee this. This is the start of overcoming bitterness.

Below are 9 main points that you need to grasp in order to overcome bitterness:

  • 1.  Forgiving is not forgetting.
  • 2.  Forgiveness is letting go of resentment. You do not heal in order to forgive; you forgive in order to heal.
  • 3.  Forgiveness is letting other people off your hook, knowing that they are still on God’s hook. (YES LORD)
  • 4.  Forgiveness is not seeking revenge.
  • 5. Forgiveness is something you do for your sake; it is between yourself and God.
  • 6.  Forgiveness is God’s way of stopping the cycle of abuse. Some say, “But they hurt me!” And I respond, “They’re still hurting you! Forgiving is how you stop the pain!”
  • 7.  Forgiveness allows God to touch your emotional core. You acknowledge the hurt and the hate in order to forgive from the heart.
  • 8.  Forgiveness is a crisis of the will. It is a choice that is only possible by the grace of God.
  • 9.  Forgiveness sets the captive free. What is to be gained by forgiving is freedom from the ABUSE and the ABUSERS…..

In conclusion, the primary objective to keep in mind as you go through forgiveness is not the question of who was right or even God’s justice; it is helping you face the truth, acknowledge the pain, forgive the offenders and move on.

Remember, the devil capitalizes on our ignorance of God and of His ways and on our irresponsibility by pummeling us with thoughts such as God is not going to help you. He does not love you. How can you be a Christian and do the things you do? Look how weak and helpless you are. THIS IS A LIE!!!!!! Greater is He that is in you that he that is in the world (thank you Jesus!!!!) If you feel you want revenge, don’t do it in Jesus Name. Why? Because Romans 12:19 says Vengeance is Mine, I will repay, says the Lord.

I pray that I’ve said something within this post that will help you overcome bitterness in Jesus Name. Remember, much prayer much prayer, little prayer little power, no prayer, NO POWER!


  1. AMEN! AMEN! Such a timely article!


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